I’ve often seen older generations quickly spiral mentally and physically after retiring from their life-long careers. Taking away one’s sense of purpose has a huge effect. In the very mildest sense I feel like I can relate. The after effects of selling our vintage shop in January has been challenging. I went from having every second of my day filled with work and activity to having it all gone in a snap. I stand by our decision to sell, as everything in my life was suffering during store ownership (family, spiritual, physical, emotional) but I wasn’t prepared for the tricky transition of letting go of my “other” career baby. Don’t get me wrong, raising a family and managing a household gives me a tremendous purpose even though I’m running around like a loco chicken. On the other hand, I also long for a creative outlet in addition to being a mother.
The past 6 months have been a journey of self-discovery. I’m extraordinarily blessed to be able to stay at home, raise my family, and explore my next creative venture. I get a huge sense of purpose from creating beautiful things…whether that is beautifying my home, creating thoughtful gifts or making exquisite food. I want to do more of that. But my game has changed a bit. Blogging about my home is tricky because every inch has been renovated (twice) so I’m searching for how I now want to use my voice and leave my mark in the world. Home maintenance, more DIY, house flipping, design for clients, move and start over with a new house, expand my online store, become Molly Homemaker? All questions I’m wrestling with.
In my pursuits I ran in to Cake by Courtney who is also a fellow contributor on the Studio 5 Show.
Her cakes leave me spellbound, speachless and in total awe. That are works of art. But what I love best is that she wants everyone to have the same enjoyment and shares her knowledge of cake making. Her easy to follow tutorials will make you believe that you too are a closeted cake maker just waiting to come out.
After stalking her instagram, then website, then YouTube channel I made my first cake.
Seven hours later and flour bomb explosion in the kitchen, I had my first cake.
It wasn’t perfect but it wasn’t too shabby either for a first cake.
The biggest delight was the reaction from my middle son who praised my cake making skills like I was a pro.
If the past six months has taught me anything it’s that the purpose of life doesn’t have to be all about accomplishments and results. Learning, struggling, and wrestling with issues is okay and necessary for growth. We are all on different trajectories and it is healthy to take time to smell the roses. Valleys and peaks is all a part of the process for everyone. And during my journey to the next door of opportunity, I’ll be in the kitchen making cake.
Wendi says
Great job, Michelle! 🙂
Michelle Hinckley says
Thanks Wendi!
Cecilia says
I too am in a transition of sorts. My kids are out of the nest so I have time to pursue some dreams. My blog is mainly silent nowadays as projects are few and far between and I’m exploring. So I get it. Enjoy the process. I do love your DIY projects but whatever you end up doing will be great. Your cake looks delish and pretty darn good too.
Michelle Hinckley says
Thank you Cecilia. I really appreciate you comment. Enjoying the process is tricky but if we don’t take time to “smell the roses” we miss the lesson. May both of us enjoy the process (and cake too)!
Victoria says
Michelle – thanks for this transparent/honest post. First of all your cake is beautiful! I too am struggling with some life changes at the moment and I read something that really resonated with me that perhaps you can relate? “The happiest people are not the richest or most successful but those who are the most adaptable.” Change is a constant – we may as well learn to adapt! Good luck and keep baking!
Michelle Hinckley says
Thank you for your kind words. You’re right, change is inevitable. I also have to remember, out of change comes growth and adaptation. You speak truth woman! Thank you for the reminder. Best to both of us with change!
Mia says
xoxo…
Stacked Stone Tile says
MMM Yummy! I’ll ask my gf right now to make me this cake!!